May 12

I had to ask some of my older women friends about this. It seems to be common knowledge that women mature sooner than men do which is the reason the reason why younger women have a tendency to be with an older man. However, it seems to be more common to see older women with younger men. So why is this so?

  1. Older women look so much younger nowadays. People say that the new 40 is 60 so 40 years of life is definitely one foxy time for 40 year old women. They look quite good and are more conscious of their health and fitness than ever before. Some of the hottest women in the world are 40 years old and above. So when you see a 40 year old woman, they now truly represent wisdom and beauty.
  2. Women reach their sexual peak during their mid-30s to 40s. A 40 year old man told me that the reason why he goes for younger women is that it’s harder please an older one – apart from knowing their sexuality and expecting it to be satisfied, older women are at their sexual peak and their sexual needs can hardly be met by the older man who’s peaking over his sexuality. I could only deduce and I think I am quite correct with this, that older women go for younger men because of their endurance and fortitude in bed; at the same time, the younger man who benefits from the learning is eager to try and please the needs of the older woman, in the process learning from their experiences and the sexuality of women which younger ones will not be able to provide.
  3. Younger men are available. How many men over their 30s are unmarried? The best of them are and so when you’re 40 and you’re single, you are presented with a whole gamut of young men and a very low ratio of older men and a tad bit of the ancient. So given this, isn’t it more probable that older women would end up with younger men? Of course, and with the reasons mentioned above, I think both younger man and older woman would have a splendid time together.
May 11

Matt is leaving for Singapore.  He got a job offer and he accepted.  I don’t really know how to feel about this right now… Somehow I feel a bit sad that our relationship or non-relationship for that matter wasn’t really able to bloom to its wonderful potential but at the same time I feel somewhat relieved that the holding pattern that we have been in for some time has finally ended.

Maybe it’s just not time for us to be together or maybe we’re just not meant to be together…

I’ll tell you something though this is absolutely new to me… This is one of those things that you will forever wonder “what if”… then we’ll bump into each other sometime in the future and ask ourselves “what if.” I have tried my best always to take the bull by its horns so that I will never wonder later what if… but somehow I just couldn’t do it with Matt… somehow it was one of those situations that I just had to allow to take its course with no interference… SIGH!

Oh Ricky… I totally forgot to tell you… he turned out to be an ass… enough said.

Well…. Good luck to Matt! We’ll see what the future holds for us…. Oh gosh… the proof of catatonia… clichés… whatever…

May 11

I was surfing through multiply when I saw a blog entitled To Date or Not to Date?

The article on this blog was basically taking about the book of Joshua Harris I Kissed Dating Goodbye.  Apparently, according to this article, dating is solely there for the purpose of marriage.  If dating is not for this purpose then kiss it goodbye.

Does dating necessarily have to end in marriage?  I believe dating is there so that you could get to know each other and see if you have a connection which can eventually evolve in a relationship.  But dating with marriage in mind is one scary thought I tell you…

I just can’t understand it. Somehow it feels that the premise of this statement is somehow based on love at first sight. You only date somebody that you believe you can spend the rest of your life with. How would you know that unless you go out on a date? Moreover, the decision to live with somebody for the rest of your life doesn’t even happen immediately. I personally subscribe to living together first. That is, as far as I’m concerned, the best way if you can stand each other’s idiosyncrasies on a daily basis; and if you live with that then you can decide whether or not you want to get married.

If all people would have marriage in their heads when dating I would definitely kiss dating goodbye… I mean it….

May 11

News: More female celebs are dating younger men. I think, yeah. I mean if they go out clubbing which I think they do, most of the men are like in their 20’s. Of course there are some men in their early to mid 30s but any age beyond the population is much lesser.

Funny though, here they are going out with younger men and yet, I would prefer to go out with someone older. Is it because younger men are able to satisfy the sexual need of an older woman which peaks at about mid-30s to 40s? Is it because younger women are looking for some security to the uncertain future that they have that they look for someone older? Hmm…. Surely I shall share with you more of my thoughts….

May 11

Have you ever seen Reality Bites starring Winona Ryder and Ethan Hawke?  Well, let’s just say that Matt (the call guy) and I have reached that impasse that Winona and Ethan reached in the movie - they somehow knew that they liked each other but no one really acted upon the emotions.

In a sense, it sucks.  But somehow it’s also comfortable.  It’s like a plane in the air which makes intermittent landings and goes straight back into the air again.  It’s something like that… It’s in the air… show of affection…. then back in the air…

Somehow will say…. WHAT THE HELL?!?!?!?!?!  But it’s comfortable.  Until of course a Ben Stiller comes into the picture… but until then it’s comfortable….

May 11

I have to say, I can’t stop listening to that Rihanna’s song “Hate that I Love You.”

Moving on… I’d like to update you with what’s going on with the “to call or not to call” guy.  I chose not to call.  At least I didn’t call him for any social event or even just to chit chat.  I waited for common friends to invite him to shindigs and the like but I did not call him directly… Nothing… No word… No call…

Then friends of ours invited us, separately, to go out last Saturday.  I treated him like any other friend that was there…

The day after that, he calls me.  He invites me to go out Monday.  He calls me Tuesday.  Again, we go out with friends today.  So far, it’s always with friends… maybe he wants to take it slow… see how it goes…

The point of the matter is… I didn’t call and he calls. He’s doing the calling and he’s doing the inviting.

So far so good… but being an impatient woman the anticipation is just getting stronger…

Well, have you seen the video of “Hate that I Love You”?  Let’s just say, I can relate….

WE

May 11

I was reading a book today and the author related a conversation between his friends and it pretty much was about how long a guy should wait before he calls a girl after a date. This was not a relationship girl-boy thing book… it was a normal book that just used this boy-girl situation as an analogy.

Now I know that there are some standards and all but I never really paid attention to it until now. Well, there is this guy that I like and he’s a hick. Okay…. A cute hick… and I’ve been calling this guy from the moment I realized I liked him… and it just never occurred to me that there seems to be rules to this thing….

Again I say that I was aware of this but I never gave it any thought as I’ve always called the guy I’m interested in. I’m in California for God’s sake.… and I’ve never had any problems… but then I realized while I was reading this book that… Hey I’m the only one doing the calling here…. He has never called me….

Which now makes me think? Does he like me? Does he think I’m cheap for calling him? Does he actually believe that I’m so agog by his cute hick-ness because I do the calling? Is it just because he’s from down there that I think this way? Or do all men think this way? Hmmmmm………

Maybe I shouldn’t call him for a week and see what happens… what do you think?