I jsut want to share how happy I am for Ellen. I believe that the love between two people should be ackowledged regardless of sexual inclinations.
I just ask myself, why is it Ellen Degeneres is far more endearing that Rosie O’ Donnel. If Rosie made that announcement I’d probalbly just say,”ok ok.. next…”
As I was browsing through the internet, I came across an article wherein a girl goes into an experiment to find out if men prefer curly hair or straight hair. She puts up two profiles: one with curly hair and the other with straight hair; sure enough, there were more winks, more emails, on the straight haired profile. This drove me to ask my male friends which they preferred and why it mattered. They didn’t go into the details of why but just said that it did matter; and most of them were in accordance with the response to the straight haired profile. An online competition website has a Best Hair Ever category and (guess what?) entries were of different colored hair but ALL of them were straight.
So why do men like straight hair? Here are some reasons that I could only speculate upon…
It looks neat and clean. Straight hair looks like a well-ironed shirt. Who would want to leave the house wearing crumpled shirt, right?
Men like running their fingers through a girl’s hair. When a man runs his fingers through a girl’s hair, it’s erotic. With straight haired girls, it goes smoothly, softly, though the hair caressing the scalp and fingers getting tickled but the thin strands that mesh in and out of a man’s fingers. With curly hair, it stops short. Their fingers go through and meet tangles caused by the natural curliness of the girl’s hair. Accidentally, because of the resistance caused by the tangles he inadvertently pulls her hair. What does he do? Say sorry when he was trying to reach out and touch? Hell no… suffice it say it would be a very awkward moment.
Straight is sweet and virginal. I mean really. Straight haired girls even from my perception look so sweet and virginal unless of course they’re all covered with tattoos and have nose rings or what have you. They’re prom queen and cheerleader incarnate. What guy wouldn’t want to go out with the prom queen or the cheerleader? It’s the perfect kind of girl to bring home to mom. And even if they’re not sweet and virginal they could always hide behind their straight hair.
It’s cultural. As mentioned in the article, people from different cultures have different preferences and the culture that has a greater majority for that particular characteristic seems to prefer the norm. So if the culture has more straights than curlys then they would like curly because that is the standard or vice versa. Maybe….
Because of their preference and for the speculative reasons I have given a lot of curly haired girls I know have gone out of their way to have their hair straightened on a semi-long term basis or have married themselves to the flat iron or their blowers. I personally prefer an au naturelle and for me that means curly. Love me love my curly hair. Honestly, I had been told by so many to straighten it. But I am proud of my mane and I carry it with confidence. Just a tip for the guys, curly haired girls are wilder and I bet some of you will attest to it. ;P
This week has been one of the most hectic weekends ever. Apart from work piling up because of failing health, personal issues with family are cropping up that honestly I do not need right now. Let’s hope that the coming week will prove to be a better, calmer and more peaceful one.
We love Sex and the City for one reason: they represented stereotypes of single women that most women can relate too. This is the reason why it became such a hit, because it represented a little bit of every woman in America. I know of some people who are affronted by the very existence of Charlotte, Miranda, Carrie and Samantha, claiming that the four characters give a wrong representation of American women. Be that as it may, the point of the matter all four characters is a part of all women, not just in the US but all over the world. We all have our Charlottes, Mirandas, Carries and even Samanthas inside us. Let me tell you why…..
Charlotte York. Charlotte York is our favorite goody two shoes prom queen. She’s perfect – pretty, smart, educated and decent. The kind of girl you bring home to mom. In the show, she represents the conservative woman, who follows the rules of love, relationships and dating. She tries her best not to go against the standards of society and thus believes that sex should always be connected with love and not lust; and that relationships should ultimately end in marriage.
Every woman is brought up the way Charlotte was with regards to love and relationships. Somewhere along the line we turn into a Miranda, a Carrie or a Samantha but charlotte is the foundation stereotype which we all can relate too… We sometimes hate her for being able to stand by the rules or love her for what she represents. But what makes her character real is the fact that she can be naughty
too… controlled naughtiness but naughtiness nevertheless and that’s what makes her tick for all of us.
Miranda Hobbes. Miranda Hobbes is the successful and self-made woman who worked her ass off to become a lawyer and to become a good one at that. Among the four girls, she’s the very first one who was able to get her own flat. She’s smart, successful, beautiful, and is an achiever. Although these are all good points, as far as men are concerned, these are all turn-offs. It is a slight on their machismo. Another problem is that Miranda’s own standards are very high. Remember how she held back with Steve because he was a bartender?
Well, for us working women, this may be an issue we share with Miranda. There are just some men who are intimidated with a successful woman and this can prove to be an obstacle for us who maybe looking for Mr. Right.
Samantha Jones. Samantha Jones is the woman we love to hate. She’s too liberal. She’s very comfortable with her sexuality and is willing to try anything under the sun. Some would say she’s a thrill seeker and some would say that she is just plain immoral. If we cannot relate to her, she’s definitely the woman we’re all afraid of. She seems to be the type that will take our man away. And yet, we see that she’s one of the most loyal to her friends. It doesn’t matter if Charlotte disagrees with her, in time of Charlotte’s needs she’s there. We also see that despite that hard exterior she’s one 
compassionate woman. So we can’t fully hate her can we?
Carrie Bradshaw. Carrie is the combination of all 3 and the fulcrum of the story. She’s very career oriented. She’s comfortable with her sexuality as well and is willing to have sex for lust sake. But although she may deny it, deep down inside she’s a Charlotte. She wants to walk down the aisle, not as a bridesmaid, but as a bride. Because she has all these qualities, she’s the one who always tries to analyze the situation. She tries to figure out her existence especially with regards to love and sex. With her we can most relate for it is her that sees the true issues that we women go through.
We are all in a state of Carrie where we see our friends behave, we see the world behave and
we try and figure out how we place in all of this. We try to balance our Charlottes, Samanthas and Mirandas and hope that we can find out own Mr. Big who’ll eventually marry us. And even if we don’t we’re in state where we’ll always be pining for Mr. Big, even when we have a nice secure Aidan with us.
So how can we hate Sex and the City? Hating it would be tantamount to hating our friends, sisters and ultimately ourselves – and that can never happen.
